The problem? It assumes you don’t already love yourself.

I don’t need to hang up a post-it note on my bathroom door that says,

“Sara, remember to shower,”

because I already do it.

Right?

So if you hang up a post-it that says, “remember to love yourself,” it assumes that you don’t already do it.

And you do.

Or more accurately… there is a part of you that already loves you.

The part of you that is seeking solutions to feel better, cultivate friendships, a romantic spark, and a healthy mind—already does.

And then your brain might go, “But Sara, I’m not that good at doing that, and that means I don’t love myself enough.”

And to that I say, “Oh hey there, part of you that thinks you don’t love yourself talking again.”

You see how fast it pops up to try and convince you that you don’t love yourself?

You see, several scientists have proven how hard we work to maintain our self-concept, our current identity—and so of course it will pop up every time someone tries to give you proof that you do love yourself.

Now, where do we go from here?

Well, first of all, acknowledging the fact that the “I need to love myself” sentence isn’t helping you—it’s what keeps you stuck.

And then, how about actively seeking out proof that yes, you do love yourself—even if it’s just in the smallest of ways.

What are things you did today that prove that you love yourself?

Did you feed your body? Did you say something kind in hopes that someone would say it back?

And did you just read a text on how you love yourself even more?

Yes, you did.

And that, my dear friend, is proof that yes,

you do love yourself.

/ Sara <3 🌿