If you’re here, I already know you’ve got goals and aspirations in life.

And with goals comes obstacles and challenges, and those produce a thought that goes:

“I want to give up”.

This is a thought.

Not a truth.

And not a task.

They say "a winner is just a loser who tried one more time."

And that "those who succeeded were the people who just didn’t stop".

And so those who “made it” just didn’t see that thought as command.

And they just kept going.

And this week, that thought has been more recurring for me lately, so instead of acting on it, I used a technique (taken from ACT therapy) to not let it control my actions.

Simple it’s this:

1. Recognise it’s a thought

2. Neutralise the thought by using a "defusion technique".

There are SO many defusion techniques: like singing the sentence to the “Happy Birthday” melody, or saying it in a silly way, or saying it super fast, or writing it on a whiteboard and painting the letters and just playing with it 🎨

1. Once you’ve done this, you’ve “neutralised” the thought, and it won’t have as much power over you or your actions.

This works.

I promise.

Two last things I want to say before I end this letter:

One, if “I want to give up” is super recurring, it might mean that you need to adjust how you approach your goal, because something in the process is painful, and if it´s gets too bad, you´ll stop - And so your job is to do what you need to do to not give up.

Two, a friend of mine, Andreas, and I were talking about this rule we both have: we never make decisions on a bad day — or in a bad state of mind.

So even if the “I want to give up” thought comes and alters your state of mind, you’re not fit to decide — so don’t.

Chill.

Come back to it later with a calm, clear state of mind.

/ Sara < 3